- love is not sex - getting laid can help you remember that you're still sexy and there are other fish in the sea. self-love, likewise. Don't hang your whole sexual identity around one person
- love is not companionship - get other people in your life to spend time with you and even go to couple-y things with you if you don't like to be alone. It's okay to take a pal to a friend's wedding, it's okay to take a friend visiting your parents
- love is not medicine - sometimes it's easy to make feeling strongly about another person keep you from attenting to yourself and the absence of that feeling can be a vacuum to bad feelings about yourself. realize this effect, try to mitigate it with good treatment of yourself.
- love is not only to/from The One - there are other people who love you and who you love, most likely, reconnect with them and get a little love sent your way, even if it's friendly love or even the love of a good gerbil.
- love goes out as well as in - find other things to love in your life and it will help make you not feel like a bottled up love thermos waiting for another person to be poured into. Go love the river, or a pet, or a family member, or your local mailman, or whatever. Letting it out is a good way to practice and be ready for it to come back in as well.
But then... (When Your Heart's On Fire) Smoke Gets In Your Eyes
2 comments:
Wahaaha yes love the mailman! I heartily concur.
But I'm telling you, it's very modern to not believe in suffering for love. For ages and centuries and across cultures and times and all sorts of stuff, love was at the top of the list of reasons for epic suffering. It gave life meaning. Where would we be if Juliet had written this list in her diary? There would be no "Lara's theme" from Dr Zhivago, and Van Gogh would have been buried with both his ears on...
Ahh... which reminds me: Speaking of García Marquez you should read "Love in times of Cholera". It refers to love-sickness as a sort of disease that will be wiped out by technology.
Anyways. EPICFTW! And I want to make a new header.
I never see my mailman! I need to find unsuspecting people to love. Lately I have been experimenting with smiling at strangers. It's pretty much the hardest thing in the world to do!!! Especially at cute boys.
And I will reiterate that you are so full of wit and wisdom and gorgeous and talented. This makes you pretty much my ideal woman.
BUT THE QUESTION IS THIS... I am so prone to suffering for love, and I have nothing to show for it. This comment encourages me to suffer harder. Uh oh!
New header "The Blue Period" :D
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